SANTA CLAUS CON SABOR A FRESA

A cocinar!!!!!!!!!!  Mas recetas aquí.

TRUCOS PARA MANUALIDADES

Aquí os dejo un video para hacer manualidades de una forma más práctica. Me han parecido grandes ideas, espero que os guste.

Como hago para que no me conteste mal

¿Cuantas veces lograr salir del cumpleaños de su mejor amigo cuando ya quedais el cumpleañero y vosotros resulta una batalla campal? o ¿ Cuantas veces regesar del parque es una odisea aunque este anocheciendo?.

En esos momentos en los que el recurso que nos viene a la cabeza, es un enfado monumental que nos lleva a amenzar sin televisión o prohibir algo con el mismo tono elevado que ellos emplean, es cuando me gustaría tener más opciones, aquí os dejo algunas recogidas de la página de Nicole Scharwz, de Imperfect Families. 
La entrada completa del blog de origen.

Disrespect Is Not OK

Disrespectful communication is a problem for many kids. We definitely need to teach our children how to treat others with kindness and respect, and how to communicate big feelings without being disrespectful.
Unfortunately, we cannot teach them to be respectful in the heat of the moment.
I know you WANT to deal with it right then and there. I know you HATE being disrespected. But, once your child is angry, the thinking part of their brain has shut down. They are in survival mode, sometimes called, “flight or fight” mode.
Plus, we cannot teach our kids to be respectful by treating them with disrespect.
If you are triggered by their disrespectful behavior, your brain goes into survival mode too. You are not able to think rationally. Your responses will either be filled with anger, yelling and punishment or you will shut down and give up.

 

Is There Another Way to Deal with Disrespect?

If you feel pressured to punish or yell at your child in the moment, I would encourage you to try try one or more of these 7 responses:

• Stay calm: Does this seem impossible? It’s not easy to keep cool when our kids are being rude. Meeting them with disrespect sends the wrong message. Model good self-care by taking a deep breath, counting to 20 or repeating a mantra: “This is not an emergency.”

• Decode the Behavior: Look at things from your child’s perspective. Were they caught off guard? Is what you’re asking inconvenient? Do they feel powerless? Their response is a reflection of what they are feeling inside. Unfortunately, at this point, they can’t put it into more appropriate words.

• Empathize: Help your child understand their own feelings by offering an empathetic response, “It seems unfair that we have to go already!” or “I know it’s hard to leave when you’re having such a fun time!” You do not have to agree with the feeling, it simply means that you are trying to relate to their experience.

• Check the Time: Some kids are affected by low blood sugar, hunger or thirst. Others are very sensitive to environmental stimulation or not getting enough sleep. Has it been awhile since your child ate? Could they use a sip of water? Or a break from a loud environment?  Offer it in a non threatening way, “I’m going to have a cracker, would you like one too?”

• Slow It Down: It’s easy to get pulled away with the “runaway train” of angry, frustrated words and emotions. Instead of jumping on board and responding to every criticism or complaint your child throws at you, try to put on the brakes, “Woa! That’s a lot of info. I’d like to listen, but you’re talking too fast. Let’s calm down so I can understand what you’re trying to say.”

• Let it Go: Sometimes it’s best not to give a response, especially if you know your child is hungry or tired and talking out of a “survival mode” brain – or if you can’t keep yourself from responding in a sarcastic, angry or disrespectful way. You don’t have to ignore it forever. Once everyone is calm, you can talk about what happened and how to do it differently next time.

• Connect: If your child is misbehaving, the last thing on your mind is cuddling. However, for many kids, connection is exactly what they need! If you are able to look past the behavior and ignore all of the “runaway train” information, you will be able to see that your child is hurting and needs support. Sometimes, a hug is better than any verbal response.

Do the Teaching Later

Waiting or delaying your response does not mean that you are a passive parent or you’re saying that disrespect is OK. It means that you are waiting until your brain, and your child’s brain, is able to receive information and move on without being rude, angry or disrespectful.

• When you’re ready to talk, you can start with, “It seems like you were upset about leaving the playdate earlier. Can we think of a different way to tell me how you feel?”

• You can also address some of the things that were said, “I heard you say something about snacks in your lunch. Is this something you want to talk about now?”

• You have feelings too! It’s ok to express them, and let you child know how their words affect you. Be careful not to point the finger back at your child, keep the focus on how it felt to you. “I felt hurt when you said I was the meanest mom ever.”

• If you lost your cool and said angry words in the heat of the moment, it’s ok to admit it. You are not perfect, and it is good for your kids to see that you are working on calming skills too!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          <iframe src="http://rcm-eu.amazon-adsystem.com/e/cm?lt1=_blank&bc1=000000&IS2=1&bg1=FFFFFF&fc1=000000&lc1=0000FF&t=creceratulado-21&o=30&p=8&l=as4&m=amazon&f=ifr&ref=ss_til&asins=B006927PAQ" style="width:120px;height:240px;" scrolling="no" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" frameborder="0"></iframe>
  
  

CUMPLE 6 AÑOS-BARBIE IN PRINCESS POWER

Para la mayoría de los niños los cumpleaños son muy especiales, en nuestro caso para ella es un día único.
Este año lo tenía muy claro quería una fiesta en la que la temática fuera la última pelicula de Barbie, "superprincesa", así que a ello me puse !manos a la obra!. Lo celebramos en parque infantil Tragabolas, que es del todo recomendable por su buen trato y flexibilidad.

 Aquí os dejo algunas fotos y las referencias por si os sirven como idea;

 Mesa con cositas para los peques ( antifaces, pajitas divertidas,banderines, carnets de superheroes, hojas para colorear)
Aquí lo podéis encontrar;
páginas para colorear 
marcapaginas, antifaces, pajitas, banderines.. 
Mantel  y varios 
Los posters los fui haciendo con cartulinas y goma eva,  y con carteles de revistas.

El disfraz era algo en lo que ella tenía mucha ilusión, y para ello Cristina de Hablan mis manos hizo de su sueño una realidad. Es una mujer muy creativa os la recomiendo por su buen hacer y su gran empeño en todos los retos que se le proponen.

A última hora decidí hacer una tarta de chuches, fui a Candy Shop y allí me dieron muy buenas ideas para decorar, y junto con varios videos de youtube, creo que quedo bastante aceptable para ser la primera vez.

Para la tarta disfracé a una de sus muñecas de Barbie Superprincesa y  le añadí unas velas a juego.

Por petición de la anfitriona, la animación fue a cargo de "Picnic Tattoo". Conocimos a Gemma en una feria hace ya un tiempo, le hizo un tattoo a Noa, y desde entonces ella solo quería que fuese esta chica la que viniese a su cumple. Sin lugar a dudas ha sido lo mejor del cumple, su amabilidad, paciencia y sobretodo lo polifacética que es!!. No dudéis en llamarla para vuestras fiestas se adapta a todos los presupuestos en todo tipo de eventos.  Al final del evento hizo un espectaculo de pompas que cautivó a todos los niños, le regalo a mi peque un pompero gigante que ella misma había hecho. Un amor de chica!!.

Esta foto lo dice todo.

Y el colofón lo puso, Virginia Lopez transformando 1 par de calcetines un precioso mono, que acompaña en las noches junto a otro muy viejo y destartalado.

Hasta la próxima entrada!.

Tranquilos y atentos como una rana- Eline Snel

Os quiero recomendar un libro que me ha gustado mucho, uno de esos ejemplares llenos de situaciones en las que nos encontramos a diario, con ejercicios prácticos de gran ayuda para aceptar y mejorar la situación. Es un libro que se lee muy fácilmente y que debe estar en nuestra biblioteca de consulta base, para ser releído.
 En el propio libro citan como se aplica en escuelas, en este estupendo blog, podéis ver un ejemplo dentro de nuestro país muy ilustrativo. El aula de Elena.  
Espero que os guste, a aquellos que os animéis a leerlo y ponerlo en práctica.

Mamá te voy a contar una cosa......

Consejos sobre como actuar ante la llegada del segundo hijo/a.

Buscando información sobre como actuar ante la llegada de un segundo hijo, me encuentro con este artículo de una mis las escritoras favoritas en temas prácticos de Crianza, Elisabeth Pantley. Aquí podéis leer el articulo completo en su origen. 

Simple Tips for Bringing Your Second Baby Home

Posted by Elizabeth Pantley in No-Cry Separation Anxiety

Adding a second child to the family changes everything. The postpartum time produces a whirl of emotions that envelops everyone in those first tender months after bringing your second-born into your family. In our instinctive drive to keep newborns from harm, we often become overzealous.

Thus, without being aware, we protect the baby, but not her sibling’s feelings, driving a wedge between them from the very beginning. The words and actions we use to shield our infants inadvertently seem defensive, accusatory, and negative to our older children, who often do not, or cannot, communicate the hurt. Siblings may perceive that they should be happy at such a time but may be perplexed as to why they also feel sad.

All the confusion an older sibling is feeling, coupled with the unintended negativity from parents, in turn, can discourage siblings from getting to know the newcomer and may plant the seeds for dreaded “sibling rivalry.” It may also drive our older children to act out in ways that we see as “naughty” but are merely desperate pleas for attention and equal billing.

Sienna, 5 yrs; Sydney, 2 weeks

The good news is that once you are aware of the emotional challenges there are many things you can do to overcome them and plant the seeds for your children to be the best of friends – right from the very beginning.

How to help your firstborn love the baby

As with many situations in parenting, a simple awareness can eliminate much of the problem. In addition to becoming more aware of what’s happening, some very simple steps can encourage a positive experience for your older child (or children) when a new baby enters the family.

Understand and Acknowledge

First, and foremost, acknowledge that this is a time of adjustment for everyone—time to reduce your outside activities, relax your housekeeping standards, and focus on your current priorities: adjusting to your new family size and paving the way for healthy sibling relationships. I know that this is hard to do. But babies are babies for such a short period of time that it’s worth it to allow yourself this time.

It’s important to understand and validate your older child’s feelings. Things have changed, and not just for you. Like you, your older child may be more tired than usual, a little more stressed, a little touchier. It’s a natural reaction. The baby does require much time and attention, and will indeed dominate and disrupt family life for a while. Be sure to let your older child know you’re aware that he is struggling with this concept—and that that is okay. Simple statements like, “I know it’s hard to wait for Emma to wake up until we go to the park” will help your child hear that you care about her feelings.

Don’t blame “THE BABY”

Avoid blaming everything on “the baby”—a common error. How do we do that? — “We can’t go now, Mommy has to feed THE BABY” “Be quiet so you don’t wake THE BABY.” “I can’t play right now, I have to bathe THE BABY.” And so on. Very soon, your older child will be ready to send THE BABY from whence it came! Of course, “the baby” really is the reason, but instead of calling that out, use a few multipurpose statements such as, “My hands are busy right now,” “We’ll go later, after lunch/nap,” “Yes, we can play, in twenty minutes.”

Aiden, 3 yrs; Adrian, 2 mths

Let your firstborn learn

Accept your child’s curiosity about the new baby, whom she will want to touch and hold. Allow your child to explore, hold, and feel the baby when the baby is sound asleep. Once your child is a bit more experienced (and the baby a bit sturdier), let your child hold and caress the awake, alert baby. And encourage having your child touch and talk to the baby when the little one is safe in your arms. Touch and communication are important to both of them and their budding relationship. You and your child will soon be rewarded and delighted by smiles of recognition from the little one.

Use positive words

Use positive terms to patiently teach your older child how to touch and play with the baby. Avoid using “no” and replace it with positive instructions. As an example, instead of saying, “No! Don’t touch the baby’s eyes!” you can say, “Emma’s eyes are delicate; touch her instead on her cheeks and her chin.”

Avoid overusing “no” and “stop” by using an approach I call “hover and rescue.” Hover over your children and intervene only if you see things moving away from your comfort zone. Then simply pick the baby up, distract the older child, and move on to something else.

Provide for realistic expectations

Give your older child realistic information about babies—that they sleep a lot, nurse a lot, have a noisy and loud cry, will have lots of messy diapers, and that it will be a while before they will turn into a fun playmate.

Teach the older sibling how to be helpful with the baby, without expecting your firstborn to become a built-in babysitter. Encourage and praise whenever things are going right.

Remind your child of her own babyhood

It’s a great time to pull out photos and movies of your older child as a baby. As you go through them, help your child see that at one time she was the baby who was getting special attention.

The new baby will require extensive care and commitment from you. But make sure that your older child is also getting some one-on-one Mommy/Daddy/Grandma/etc. time. Allowing time for a shared game, book or cuddle can go a long way towards helping your older child feel secure in your love for her.

With a little heart, increased awareness, and a few new tactics, you can all enjoy this remarkable family transformation together.